Recently, due to the increase in meal prices and the burden on households, there is an ongoing debate online about gift money and wedding guest culture. The story of being scolded for paying 100,000 won as a congratulatory gift to his boss’s wedding with his wife also raised concerns about what the appropriate ceremonial norms are.
Meanwhile, netizens’ opinions are divided on the story of an office worker who received a message from a co-worker who retired more than five years ago, saying, ‘I did not send you a congratulatory gift for my child’s wedding, so send it to me.’
According to the message posted by Mr. A, Mr. B, a retiree, said, “I hope you can understand as I finished my child’s marriage last month (September 23) and would like to write a few words about congratulatory and condolence expenses and human relationships.”
Mr. B said, “I think the dictionary meaning of congratulations and condolences is the concept of give and take , mutual aid,” and “Based on my participation in aegyo congratulations for the past 10 years, 53% of respondents responded that I would like to receive a congratulatory gift in return for my child’s wedding.” “There was nothing,” he wrote.
Mr. B continued, “Considering the cost of congratulations and condolences, your family will fall into one of the two cases below. First, you are unable to return the congratulatory money because you do not know the other person’s congratulations and condolences. I would be grateful if you could participate even if it is late. “Secondly, if I don’t do it even after knowing the other person’s congratulatory or condolence wishes, there is nothing I can do, and I will only remember the three letters of his name.”
Finally, Mr. B said that he had sent 50,000 won as a congratulatory gift at the time of Mr. A’s marriage and added his account number at the end. In response, Ms. A revealed that she had sent 50,000 won, the same amount she received from Mr. B, and confessed that she was offended.
On the 4th, Mr. A, an office worker, posted a collection of messages on
Mr. A said, “I’m not trying to argue about giving money or not. When calling for family or condolences, they just sent out a mobile wedding invitation to an unknown number without saying anything, which was rude even though I was an adult. From then on, I was offended토토사이트, but they said, ‘If you don’t give me money, I won’t remember your name.'” “I was angry because he sent me a threatening text message saying, ‘I will do it,’” he said.
He said, “When I sent the wedding invitation, even if I had just asked how you were doing, if I had expressed it a little better, I would have apologized for being late and congratulated you on your child’s marriage.”
Netizens who saw this responded, “I’ve never seen someone so calculating,” and “The culture of congratulations and condolences that seem to be exchanged without congratulations should end.”
On the other hand, some netizens responded by understanding Mr. B’s position, such as “Even if you are retired, if you received something, it is right to take care of it”, “I received something, but not giving it back is a scam mentality in itself”, “Would it have been better if it had been worse?”, “It seems like you are having financial difficulties.” showed.
Office workers attend family events and condolences an average of 1.6 times per month… The amount is 73,300 won.
According to a survey of 435 people by Saramin, a recruitment and job search platform, 74.3% of office workers chose ‘attendance of congratulations and condolences’ as something they must do to manage their network.
The average number of weddings and condolences attended per month was 1.6, and the average cost paid per visit was 73,000 won. This means spending about 1.4 million won per year.
Some point out that as various family types, such as non-marriage and dinks (double-income couples without children), are increasing, there is a need for a change in the culture of giving and receiving congratulatory and condolence expenses.
